How can i convince my girlfriend to have weight loss surgery without hurting her feelings?

December 4, 2011 by  
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Question by Lola: How can i convince my girlfriend to have weight loss surgery without hurting her feelings?
My girlfriend is overweight and i can tell she’s very insecure about her body.I want to try and convince her to get weight loss surgery but i don’t want to seem mean or that i only care about her weight.I am not attracted to skinny size 2 type girls but i am attracted to girls with curves kinda like Jordin Sparks size.How do i talk to my girlfriend about getting weight loss surgery or just losing weight the old fashion way without making her feel bad?

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go to the gym with her and eat healthier

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7 Responses to “How can i convince my girlfriend to have weight loss surgery without hurting her feelings?”
  1. AnswerBot says:

    The easiest way I can think of is lose some weight with her!
    Tell her you want to work out so you both can live healthier/happier lives, then take her to the gym/jog around the block, etc! Also, eating healthy doesn’t hurt! 😉

    In no time at all you’ll both be healthier, happier, and skinnier people! And no ones feelings have to get hurt in the process 🙂

  2. caitlyn says:

    yeah go to the gym with her. suggest that you two start the challenge of eating healthier together

  3. Coolidge says:

    I totally agree. Tell her that you feel out of shape and you would really love her support in helping you work out and eat right. And go to the gym together, and make it fun, and always tell her that she’s super hot no matter what.

    If she resists that, try to get a doctor or trainer or something to tell her instead of you. That way it isn’t personal.

    And if for some reason you do tell her she needs to lose weight, don’t tell her to get surgery. It’s super painful and there are risks and if she’s not disciplined enough to lose weight by eating a little less, she’s not disciplined enough to keep the weight off after surgery.

  4. originalnab says:

    Lead by example, start working out, getting fit. she’ll be encouraged to do the same.

  5. sabrina the teenage which! says:

    instead of bringing it up this way…maybe just invite her to come to the gym with you one day, dont say ANYTHING about weight when asking her though, just tell her you want to spend more time with her or that you just want someone to hang out with and someone to help encourage you 🙂 hope this helps

  6. James says:

    Its simple dont make it about her weight, Buy the product for her, and do it with her, the “1000 Calorie Challenge plan” a mixture of selective eating and excersising, so you could do it with her or ask her to do it with you. I tried trying pills as well as about hundreds of other diets, Atkins, Weight watchers you name it I tried it, i found a link to 1000 Calorie Challenge plan and thought i would give it a try, i had tried all else after all, i lost 40 pounds in less than 3 months,and it has stayed off for almost a year now because it taught me a structure, a structure to balance my eating and exercise.

    Checkout it has comprehensive info and even a link to a free video!

  7. Water says:

    There are more tips and info.

    1. If what you are eating has less than 1 carb, count it as 1 carb just to be sure.

    2. Totally avoid caffine at least for the first two weeks on the program.

    3. Drink a MINIMUM of 8 glasses of plain water or seltzer daily.

    4. Don’t weigh yourself more than once a week

    5. Take starting measurements as well as weight – sometimes you’ll lose inches before pounds

    6. Avoid any type of “low carb” sweetener for the first two weeks

    7. Don’t compare your loss to someone else’s – this is a YMMV thing (your milage may vary)

    8. Stalls are common around the third week so don’t panic

    9. If you follow your plan to the T and don’t lose, consider Candida as a possibility and avoid vinegar, cheese, mushrooms and any other fermented food

    10. Have bloodwork done before starting so you have a comparison

    11. Cholesterol can be elevated in the first few weeks til your body adjusts – make sure your doctor knows that you’re doing low carb and when you started

    12. Don’t blame the diet if you don’t read your plan book — blame the diet if you don’t read the labels — Don’t blame the diet if you don’t follow the diet
    Good Luck and Take care 🙂

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